Types of Counseling: A Bottom Up Approach

Types of Counseling: A Bottom Up Approach

You’re revved, anxious, and feeling out of sorts. You know you need to get some help, but the thought of starting therapy again just seems to add to the stress level. The last time you went to therapy, it didn’t really seem to help. You talked about the problems. You told the deep dark secrets. But nothing seemed to really change. So now what?

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Baffled by Your Relationship Patterns? Allow Me to Shed Some Light

Baffled by Your Relationship Patterns? Allow Me to Shed Some Light

"Why, oh why, do I keep going back? I know this relationship is toxic and I keep going back!” These words or some other closely related sentiment bounce off the walls during relationship counseling at least once a month.

Or when a relationship ends, “My ex is a total jerk! Why do I keep picking jerks?”

In couples counseling, I hear, “It always ends up this way! She walls off and stops talking and I end up exploding and nothing gets resolved. It’s like we can’t even communicate.”

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How your Beliefs are Sabotaging your Picker

How your Beliefs are Sabotaging your Picker

Many many years ago, in fact, it feels like another lifetime ago, my “partner picker” was programmed to Narcissist. It seemed like the only men I was attracted to were self-absorbed, self-interested, and self-serving. I continued to find myself in relationships where my role was to, in some way, serve someone else’s selfish interests. I would find myself scratching my head saying, “How the hell did this happen again?”  It wasn’t until years later, I realized my beliefs were sabotaging my picker.

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